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My Name Is Rey Abao-Dacalos Maio 3, 2008

Filed under: Beliefs,Historical,Life,Rights — looking4good @ 5:02 pm

My real name is Rey Anthony Abao-Dacalos but my birth certificate says Rey Abao-Dacalos only. I was born 12:10am on June 18, 1974, but my birth certificate says June 17, 1974. Typo or human error? Whatever…

I was born at Sacred Heart Hospital in Cebu City, baptized at Toledo City Parish – the San Juan De Sahagun and spent my childhood years at Atlas Mining Consolidated Mining Corporation, DAS, Lutopan, Toledo City. I had my primary education (and my growing years) at Andres Soriano Memorial School (ASMS) from Grade 1 to Grade 6. It was this time that my IQ was pegged at 120!

I never graduated elementary as I jump-shipped from Grade 6 to 1st Year High. ASMS had Grade 7 then (and still has now!) and my family has to move out from the ‘little Baguio’ of Cebu as I was about to take the next step, seeking for greener pastures. (

I had my secondary education at Don Bosco Technical High School at the age of 11, spent one year at Don Bosco Seminary for Brotherhood, played soccer, volleyball, horn for a brass band and graduated as a mediocre student. Luckily, I passed all my subjects during my senior year.

Puberty years at the southside, in a place where I was surrounded by cousins, relatives and street-smarts in our ancestral lot. I was one of those ‘seen’ kids and yes, I was just being a kid! No restrictions. With my father working abroad, I was such in a liberty to go beyond what was expected of me.

I entered college at the age of 15, started with the course BS Computer Engineering for two (2) years then shifted to BS Business Administration and had a happy-go-lucky college life that took me five (5) years to finish a 4-year course. But in between, I worked as a Service Crew-Trainor at Jollibee-Mango, Store Marketing Assistant at Jollibee-SM City Cebu and Special Events Coordinator-Account Executive for 92.3 Killer Bee – Cebu, earning a measly allowance for my own consumption.

I was a member of a band, playing keyboards for 3rd Edition and Opus X. I’m a big fan of LOCAL GROUND and I would prefer old school rock-n-roll!

I was never hooked on drugs but I tried it once out of curiosity and I didn’t like it. I don’t drink that much as one (1) bottle will make my world go round and I had my smoking days during the first two (2) years of my college. USC-TC was a haven.

Finishing college, I had my first ‘real’ job at San Miguel Corporation – Beer Division. Spent the first few months as Trade Marketing Assistant for Non-Alcoholic Beverage covering Visayas and Mindanao then at National level, based at the SMC Head Office in Ortigas Center, Mandaluyong City.

In between, I spent Holy Week in Baguio City and noticed how people there celebrate. Not your usual I should say. Parties and events here and there. Outdoor concerts up and about. Celebration of mournings! That could well describe it. And somehow it crossed my mind – can I do this in Cebu? Alas – Bantayan Island!

Some months after, I was given the opportunity to fill-in a slot for Trade Promotions and Merchandising Assistant for Cebu-South, then for Cebu-North, based in Mandaue City. This is where my ‘glamorous and notorious’ life kicked-off! Events was my game. Party was my name! To cut the story short, I resigned from the company after seven (7) years of fruitful and ‘not-so-anomalous’ and mutually beneficial labor. I had my moments. I had my time.

Spent Holy Week in Bantayan Island from 2000 – 2004 because of work. Yes! Through those years, I did crazy things in that island but I made it a point to visit the three (3) churches during Holy Thursdays and spent Good Fridays on the beach – lazy as a bee! A lot do not know but I can say with pride that I was instrumental in making those parties happen back then and maybe what it is today. On that island – in Sta. Fe, Bantayan Island.

Later part of 2003, I, Juel Zoleta and the rest of the Local Ground-New Cebu Music pioneers formed Cebu Music Factory. (

There is life after the beer as I spent the next three (3) months as Senior Specialist for Corporate Marketing of Globe Telecom covering Western Visayas. I resigned! There are things better left unsaid. But that bastard! He was such a dirty bastard himself! He had his time. Much worst than mine combined!

It was during this period that me and Mael Lavares started Cebu DJ Centrale Services. (

I had stints as Sales and Operations Manager for Cebu Club Fort Med Resort, Boljoon, down south and Resort Operations Manager for San Remigio Beach Club, San Remigio, up north. Currently, I’m a Marketing Communications Officer in one of the top local IT companies in Cebu.

I have four (4) kids – Andre (April 19, 1997), Seona (February 25, 1998), Mellissa (September 25, 2002) and Summer (March 24, 2006). Not the usual family as they are only related through me. To the moms, thank for bringing life to angels!

Don’t look at me as if I’m the only person in this kind of situation because I’m not! I am proud of my kids and it will stay that way always! I admit I have my shortcomings and failures as a father but I know one day, I’ll make it up to them if only the people around them would permit me.

I can play games if you want me to. I can be a loyal friend. I will die for what I believe in and I can stand up for the person I love. I can shoot you if I have to but I’ll cross the bridge when I get there. To all those I’ve hurt or had misunderstandings before, my sincerest apologies. As they say, to err is human and to forgive is divine.

I’m back to ground-zero and keeping my fingers crossed that God will give me a chance for redemption. Never too late to change. Never too late to pull myself up and start life over again. I’ve seen the darkest and worst part of me. No regrets. Just memories. More importantly, lessons!

My life is somehow going around in circles but I know everything will fall in its proper place in God’s time. I am no religious but I’m a firm believer. My faith is strong and I pray for safety and good health for all those close to my heart. I’m grateful for all the blessings but in the end, whatever comes my way, let His will be done.

Presently, I’m happy because I know I’m being loved!

Don’t judge me because of my past and as if I’m the lowest human standing and moving around on this planet. First, take a look at yourself and ask – Who am I? Know yourself before you judge me. Know the real you! Scared to admit and face the truth?

So, what’s your story?


Angels Novembro 19, 2007

Filed under: Beliefs — looking4good @ 12:21 am

Do you believe in angels?

I don’t mean a hunky John Travolta with wings standing in front of you.

I’m talking about the invisible silken caresses when you least expect one…

the soft hug that’s felt without being seen…

the gentle whisper in your ears during a quiet moment…

the magical call when the time is right…

a silent piece of golden advice.

Do you believe in such events?

I do.

In life we tend to believe mostly in things that are visible, audible and tangible. But can you see strength with your naked eyes? Can you hear courage with your bare ears?

No but we do feel them, and know that they exist.

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