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Living a life of lasting happiness Agosto 10, 2007

Filed under: Inspirational — looking4good @ 10:20 pm

Can one live a life of lasting happiness?

Most cultures emphasizes happiness and pleasure in life,the natural tendency is to avoid suffering.Unfortunately, happiness is a transient state that cannot be reached and kept. Happiness never lasts. Happiness is related to the Middle English word “hap” the root meaning come from the word “happenstance”. This implies that happiness is more due to luck,happenstance,than effort. If lucky, we might be happy, at least, for a short time.


Happiness also means,a state of mind or attitude that is induced by the presence of favourable circumstances. To be content means to gratify or fulfill a need or desire. Hence, it represents a state of mind that is induced when a need or desire is fulfilled not necessarily as a result of favourable circumstances.

Too many times people seek happiness as their goal in life,their sole objective. Many times you will hear individuals mutter, “If only I had enough money, an exciting career, a better marriage, a sensitive lover, more time for my leisure activities, was slimmer, etc,I would be really happy”.
All of us at one time or another have felt this way. We begin to equate happiness with the things-objects, talents, people.We don’t have in our lives rather than by things that we do have in our lives.

Often times, we always look for things outside ourselves to make us complete, feel whole and successful. We look to our spouses, lovers, careers, children,friends, hobbies, etc. to validate our existence and to substantiate our worth to ourselves. We expect our partners to make our lives work for us,expect our careers to ease our sense of insecurity about ourselves; some would starve themselves to almost to death in order to look slim, glamorous and sexy for others to accept rather than vanity, buy the latest clothes, cars and accessories so that we can appear to have it all-materialism and etc.

We will do anything that we believe can help us to achieve the state called happiness. A state where all is perfect. Just like Snow White or Cinderella and Prince Charming who lived happily ever after.Then problems arise because too many of us expect that life will be like a fairy tale and are bitterly disappointed when it doesn’t turn out that way.

Happiness…does it feel likes enjoying ice cream?
We can change our clothes, hair, look and relationships in search of that perfect state, but until we focus on changing our attitudes about such ideals as happiness, we will always be looking somewhere else for it or looking for someone else to provide it.

To be happy denotes a state of being that relies on positive experiences to reinforce its existence. So when difficult times occur, you can fall from the state of happiness into the state of fear-anger, depression and chaos,until the negative stimulus is eliminated.

However, to be content denotes a state of mind that is not based upon positive or negative stimulation. It is a feeling akin to peace of mind. To be content means that one accepts all circumstances as part of the natural rhythm of life, the cosmic flow that contains both peaks and valleys.

A contented person accepts themselves for who they are regardless of their faults and talents. They accept others as they are and vice-versa as well as the path upon which they walk. They realize that to be satisfied is an experience without words yet brings them such peace of mind, they need not explain it.

Thus, to be or not to be content is a choice we all have to make. If we continue to look for the ideal state called happiness, we can feel like we are on an emotional roller coaster never knowing when the downs will come with the ups.

However, living in the state known as contentment can be likened to sail or just sitting in a boat on a calm lake. It may not seem as exciting,but to anyone who has done it, it is a most tranquil, peaceful experience and perhaps truly a slice of heaven on earth.For most people,Wealth,Physical appearance,Age,Power/Influence,Children,Possessions,Fame,Education are the major things that maintain lasting happiness in their lives.My question is if you have all these things in your life, would you be really really happy?

Noushy Syah,UK

 

6 Responses to “Living a life of lasting happiness”

  1. Jim Says:

    Happiness… enjoying ice cream?

    all too soon
    it will be over

    look for happiness within
    dont depend on your spouse or lover for your happiness

  2. Anonymous Says:

    Happiness is a mixture of physically, mentally and spiritually stable grind in one with moderate simplicity,living in a peaceful atmosphere, no war and respect others freedom of speech.

  3. eduardo waghorn Says:

    I love Ice creams…but I think it is hard to keep yourself feet eating them daily:))
    It depends? Who knows…many elements …
    Interesting post.
    Warm greetings from Chile! Visit me usually if you want, and leave a comment even on your own language:)
    A hug.

  4. Noushy Syah Says:

    JIM
    In order to be happy I do agree as you said…

    It should comes within, in and out, not dependable on others, and it must be genuinely, not faking…

  5. Noushy Syah Says:

    ANON
    Happiness is a mixture of physically, mentally and spiritually stable grind in one with moderate simplicity,living in a peaceful atmosphere, no war and respect others freedom of speech.
    ************************************
    It’s a combination of many elements!!
    TQ fpr your insight.Appreciate it.

    EDUARDO
    love Ice creams…but I think it is hard to keep yourself feet eating them daily:))
    It depends? Who knows…many elements …
    Interesting post.
    Warm greetings from Chile! Visit me usually if you want, and leave a comment even on your own language:)
    A hug.
    *********************************
    TQ for your comment.I do agree with your say…Yeah, I will visit to your blog and tanaks agaian yea.

    Cheers,
    NS,UK.

  6. Noushy Syah Says:

    Typo—>
    Eduardo,I will visit to your blog and thanks again.

    Cheers,
    NS,UK.


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